Blame, guilt, and control seem to go hand in hand. Don’t they? If we are blamed, and choose to take the blame, there is power in that. If we release the blame, and allow their to be no blame on anyone, there is no control. The blame engenders guilt, without guilt there is no blame and vice versa. Why is it so scary to be powerless over a situation, shouldn’t we feel relieved for it not to be in our power? Even when we “put the ball in someone else’s court,” we control that, and when they fall short of our expectations, they earn the blame. If they succeed our expectations, we take pride in “knowing” that they would. What crazy ideology.